• Doniree

    Your timing with this is beautiful and perfect. That painting of Venus speaks to me on a couple of levels – on the one hand, there’s a giant rendition of that painting hanging in a hotel here in Colorado that my love and I have spent a couple of nights at this summer. You can’t NOT notice it coming down the staircase, and her beauty and the raw, nakedness of that photo has always caught my attention.

    With regards to body image, I’ve put a few on this month too. I’m blaming it on the switch in birth control and subsequent hormonal fluctuation (my mood has been ragingly emotional too which is a bit weird for me – I’m rational! I promise!), but honestly? I don’t love the change.

    I love this picture and the beauty. Thanks for sharing this.

  • http://unaccomplishedlady.com The Unaccomplished Lady

    That sounds just amazing. I would totally love to have this painting in a physical manifestation…in fact, I’d love to have it in my house somewhere! Totally gonna make a note of that in our current search for art to hang on our walls.

    Oh boy, when I was on birth control pills, it truly sucked in so many ways, but the worst was the weight gain since everyone can see that change most prominently. They say the pills are safe, but I’m not so sure when it causes unnatural weight changes, mood changes, and so much more. I’m glad to be off them now, but still currently looking for a better alternative. I hope your switch is for the better overall.

    Thanks for visiting! :)

  • Yaffie

    Jocelyn,
    Unfortunately, body image is a gendered issue that most women and few men deal with. The double standard on aging seems to view men as more attractive as they age, while women less so as they age. While I don’t agree with that double standard I still get caught up in weight issues myself, and it sucks!
    Botticelli’s painting depicted a time when female beauty was directly attached to being womanly, and more accurately, being a mother: being built to bear and care for children. Round hips, belly, proportionate chest. The “Coke bottle shape” so desired back in the day has been traded for the “Martini glass shape”: big chest, small waist, hips, legs. Blah.

    I’m ranting at this point but basically, Botticelli rocks, and women like Christina Hendricks, Mia Tyler, and Ashley Graham are freakin gorgeous!

    Jezebel has an article about plus-size models and (essentially) the first fashion shoot to feature plus size models without sidelining them behind standard size models. Most other fashion spreads have done it as a publicity stunt for ratings, but this one’s pretty damn beautiful:
    http://jezebel.com/5439851/v-gives-the-world-a-plus+size-shoot-not-afraid-to-flaunt-its-curves

  • http://www.facebook.com/gernez Gernez Ellen Owens

    If you find a better alternative for birth control pills, please let me know! I gained so much weight from birth control pills (or at least I’m assuming that was the main cause), so I got off of them. But I’m still overweight!

  • http://unaccomplishedlady.com The Unaccomplished Lady

    I’m currently working with my holistic doctor to find a new solution. So far, it seems that if you go for options without hormones, you won’t have the issues that birth control pills cause. I’ve yet to come to any conclusions about it, but I would recommend you see your doctor and ask about non-hormonal options. There’s quite a few out there, surprisingly, which get no commercial love, but seem quite effective just the same.

    Getting off birth control pills was just one step for me to recover back to a more optimal weight. I realized that I had other issues that were causing my weight gain, one of which was adrenal fatigue. With the help of my health advisor, I was able to overcome adrenal fatigue and lose about 20 pounds without doing anymore than changing my diet to a more whole foods one and walking about 20 minutes a day. I would recommend you look into it yourself and see if that may be causing your weight problems. I’m personally trying to return back to a stricter whole foods diet now since I’ve gained back more of my weight from my recent cleanse.

  • http://unaccomplishedlady.com The Unaccomplished Lady

    Thanks for that awesome article! It’s weird to me that you are affected by the skinny image, too, since I look up to you for inspiration in what’s beautiful in an Asian woman, but then again, it makes total sense that all women, no matter how big, small or beautiful are affected by our crazy media imagery.

    I love that I can see how clothes really fit on a plus sized model. I’m not quite that large myself, but it’s nice to see that I could be somewhere between the skinny model and a more normal looking plus sized model (rather than just hating that I’m nowhere near looking like the skinny model). I’m sick and tired of clothes companies trying to tell me they make jeans that fit my body shape, but then when I look at the models or mannequins on display, the body shapes are just skinny washboards. For the life of me, I can’t see any difference between the three types of new women’s jeans that Levi’s is pushing now in their new line. Can anyone?

  • http://www.newlywedsonabudget.com/ NewlywedsonaBudget

    These women all look NORMAL to me…definitely not plus size. it makes me cringe a little bit because I feel my body looks like theirs and I’m a size 6/8…

  • http://unaccomplishedlady.com The Unaccomplished Lady

    Me too! I’m about the same size as you and it’s odd to me that these women have to be over size 12/14 in order to be considered plus size!

  • Ignorant Awareness

    Which hotel in Colorado? =o I’ll be visiting CO (and the US) for the first time in ages (since I live in the UK) in May & I’d be curious to see it!
    And yes, I think this issue affects most women these days- the media use the excuse ‘oh but the public KNOW how much these photos have been airbrushed etc so it’s ok to have them showing’
    Yes, we the public can see if if a photo has been photoshopped but DEEP DOWN we still have problems accepting it- just like you pointed out. It is a sad predicament of our society indeed when we are still affected by these photos and videos of skinny women subconsciously, even if we try to fight it in the same way you talked about.

  • http://unaccomplishedlady.com The Unaccomplished Lady

    You’re right, I don’t think most people even think about the fact that these models are almost always photoshopped. And plus, I developed my understanding of the female body when I was a kid, and nobody ever told me all those images I saw on magazine covers were photoshopped. I don’t think I really found out till after I had already formed my idea of models and female bodies, so that argument totally doesn’t work! The damage has been done, and I can try to remind myself that photoshopping has been done, but let’s face it, I don’t remember it that often.

  • Metalllikato

    I’m a Venus, no doubt. What’s with the idea of these chicks being “plus size” models? Whenever I buy clothes, I buy size 14 jeans and Large shirts (thanks to my boobs). If I tried something on in the official plus-size shirts, the CLOTHES FIT LIKE FREAKIN TENTS. And 14 is freaking “plus size” by modeling standards? What the heck, fashion industry. What. The. Heck. You’re confusing me.